Ahí no es

" And we have to decide an amount of time that I can give to this relationship to find out whether is right.

 In life you have to choose your regrets.

And if you know you are going to regret leaving this relationship now, without a little more closure, fair enough, but there's going to be a time where the bigger regret is how long you stayed. So between those two, there is the amount of time your are willing to bet. "

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No creo que todo el dolor signifique "ahí no es". No creo que las cosas tengan que ser sencillas y fáciles, cuando las personas y las situaciones no lo son. No le temo al dolor de la pérdida, de la tristeza por algo bueno que duró y ya no puede ser. O el dolor de lo que se fractura y te corta pero todavía vale la pena seguir y dar la batalla. Duele pero sigues, hay un propósito, un sentido. Creo que si te pasas la vida saltando del barco a la primera tormenta que encuentras, no vas a llegar a ningún sitio que valga la pena.

En cambio, el dolor sucio y gris del herirse, abandonar, no saber cuidar, ese que se siente como arañar una puerta cerrada o gritarle a la pared, ese no tiene cabida. Ese, efectivamente, "ahí no es". 

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"Having empathy without having a standard for what you expect in return is a recipe for disaster. When an endless capacity for empathy meets an endless capacity to take, you have a situation where someone can destroy your live. When you dont't have a standard for how things need to get better or progress or how someone needs to take accountability for their healing, now you have a relationship that can consume, where you would lose yourself

There are certain people in our lives who we have made the mistake of endlessly given empathy to. And it didn't make things better, it just extended the relationship. And you have to ask yourself: 'is my empathy, is my understanding, making things better?' and 'Am I extended the same thing? Are they extending equal amounts of empathy and understanding towards me? Very often empathy and understanding only runs in one direction. And it's only that we were stop being so understanding and so patient, that we understand that the relationship keeps going is because of us. The moment we stop being so compassionate and giving them the benefit of the doubt, it devolves into chaos "